Black children in Toronto represent 8% of the city’s youth—yet, Black children make up 41% of the city’s foster kids and 40% of its High School dropouts.

And though, Black Canadians represent only 3% of the Canadian population, 10% of the nation’s prison inmates are Black.

In America, only 47% of Black students graduate from college, compared to 65% for White students. Consequently, Black Americans average a yearly income of 35,000 a year, compared to 57,000 a year for White Americans. In fact, 27% of Black Americans live below the poverty line, compared to just 10% of White Americans. And though Black Americans represent only 13% of the American population, they make up 37% percent of America’s prison inmates.

White supremacy may be a thing of the past, but White privilege is very much present in Canada and America today. White privilege isn’t just a Black Lives Matter buzzword or the name of a terrible Macklemore song—it is actually the most critical concept of the Black Lives Matter movement.

Long before it became a popular Black Lives Matter hashtag, the words White privilege first entered into popular vocabulary in 1988 when feminist writer Peggy McIntosh penned her article, White Privilege and Male Privilege. In her article, McIntosh described White privilege as:

“an invisible package of unearned asset…an invisible weightless knapsack of special provisions, assurances, tools, maps, guides, codebooks, passports, visas, clothes, compass, emergency gear, and blank checks.”

I agree with McIntosh that White people generally have an advantage over Black people. That, in my opinion, is unquestionable. Given the long history of White supremacist eras in America, it is impossible to argue against the truth that White Americans have benefited from chattel slavery and Jim Crow—at the expense of Black Americans. And though anti-Black racism—which McIntosh associates with White privilege—is evidently not nearly as rampant as it used to be, racism, like all abominable sins, persists.

However, as suggested by the title of her article, McIntosh’s concept of White privilege is directly related to male privilege and other regressive concepts of privilege, such as heterosexual privilege, cisgender privilege, and Christian privilege. The problem with these concepts of privilege is not necessarily with their validity—as there is some truth to them—the problem, however, is that so few are willing to admit that these privileges largely exists because of self-inflicted wounds by the unprivileged. White privilege is not the exception.

The truth can be an immensely painful thing, but it is always immensely freeing. This is why I am so disappointed in Black Lives Matter. Actually, this is why I hate Black Lives Matter. Black Lives Matter’s adamant refusal to embrace the truth ensures that the self-inflicted wounds within Black Canadian and Black American communities will remain uncared for and untreated.

Last month, Justin Carr was murdered by Rayquan Borum at a Black Lives Matter protest. To be clear, a Black man was murdered by another Black man at a Black Lives Matter protest. And yet, Justin Carr’s name didn’t trend on Twitter. There was no outrage. No protests. Nothing. Apparently, the life of a Black man murdered by another Black man at a Black Lives Matter protest doesn’t matter all that much.

Justin Carr is seemingly just another unimportant victim of what Black Lives Matter considers a myth—Black-on-Black crime—though it is responsible for 6,000 Black American deaths in 2015, compared to 258 Black American deaths caused by police officers in the same year. Black-on-Black crime isn’t nearly the only critical Black issue Black Lives Matter considers a myth. Although the movement claims to campaign against racism, they reject, ridiculously, that reverse-racism exists—thereby supporting the Black supremacist belief that Black people are morally superior to White people.

Still, as problematic as Black-on-Black crime and reverse-racism are, they are not quite as wounding to Black people as White privilege is. Since white privilege largely exists because Black lives do not matter to Black fathers.

In 1965, 75% of Black Americans were born into two-parent households, compared to 95% of White Americans. Today, however, only 27% of Black Americans are born into two-parent households, compared to 75% of White Americans. Black Canadians are only slightly better off than our American counterparts, as only 40% of Black Canadians are born into two-parent households.

In a speech delivered on Father’s Day in 2008 before a Black congregation, Barack Obama said, “We know that more than half of all black children live in single-parent households, a number that has doubled – doubled – since we were children. We know the statistics – that children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely to drop out of schools and twenty times more likely to end up in prison. They are more likely to have behavioral problems, or run away from home, or become teenage parents themselves. And the foundations of our community are weaker because of it.”

Having never experienced the privilege of ever laying eyes on my father—no less being mentored and disciplined by him—I know all too well the trials and temptations that come with fatherlessness. I know how my mother—forced to work two full-time jobs—struggled to keep me supervised and disciplined, despite her heroic efforts. I know how that produced poor grades in school and freakish violence—I had been in involved in over 20 fist-fights by the time I turned 18.

The truth is, we all know this. We all know that absentee Black fathers produce self-inflicted wounds that cause so much pain for Black Canadians and Black Americans.

Black Lives Matter knows this too. But it doesn’t matter to them. In fact, they are despicably intent on helping to destroy the nuclear Black family. On the Mission and Principles section of their website, the group writes:

We are committed to disrupting the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and “villages” that collectively care for one another, and especially “our” children to the degree that mothers, parents and children are comfortable.”

I am not interested in demanding that my White neighbours check their White privilege. I’d rather encourage them to count their blessings. And while I’m at it—I’ll count mine too. Considering where and what I come from, I’ll never stop counting.

  • Kim Douglas

    Ya know? Humans are just plain prejudiced, no matter what color or upbringing they have. We are just plain wicked sinners! This article just did not go where I expected it to as I started reading the first few paragraphs. In them I heard the complaints of blacks and agreed and understood many of the resentments. But I started wondering, “are they being rational and correct in all their complaints and what will solve the problems?” Plus as I read how the prejudices caused less priviledges for blacks and gave superiority to whites, I started thinking of other scenarios – what about beauty? Most everyone knows how the pretty girl or the good looking guy wins every time no matter how miserable they fail in other areas. Is that fair? Or how about age? My sixty some years reveal to me in both loud and subtle ways of how much less I am afforded acknowledgement, given an audience for my thoughts or even conversation, or considered “worthy” to being around than when I was young(er). AND It doesn’t feel good! I often think about how I have never been treated even remotely as wretched as many black people have and how miserable that must be and feel; and yet as I read the first part about what Black Lives Matter strive for, it just didn’t seem to be the answer. I thought, something is wrong here and then wow! you take over with examples and answers and clarity and truth that screams “look at this people! Open your eyes!” Well done. Awesome.
    As I said, we are wicked sinners and sinners hurt, hate, ruin and try to rule others. Our only hope is Jesus who died for sinners, and because of that, He gives new hearts and new natures to be like Him.
    Thank you for this article 🙂 I came to your site (from Tim Challis blog) to read your ‘being afraid to live’ article. Me too. I am afraid I will not love God or my own family as Christ commands, let alone a black person who hates me because I’m a priviledged white. I am afraid of being what I don’t want to. Ps 56:3 “When I am afraid, I will trust in you.” He will finish in all His people what He has started. Fear not! Praise His name!

    • SammySey

      Thank you for reading, ma’am. You’ve made a number of good points. Beauty and youth indeed produce privileges for some. As you said, “Humans are just plain prejudiced.” Thank you for your kind words!